Wednesday, March 20, 2024

I’ve had a thought on my brain to delve into deeper topics ’round here every once in a while. Not sure it’s my brand (I don’t actually have a brand), but I feel like we could have a good discussion through the comments.
So… I think I come off as pretty tough (maybe I don’t) but I am very sensitive. In fact, I think I check most of the boxes of being a “highly sensitive person or HSP”. So, I know it is a flaw of mine to be too sensitive to certain things. Ever since I have known Tom, he has said that I have to stop expecting people to act the way I want them to act or the way I would act in a given situation.
My sister Kate has gone through some crap that I won’t get into, but she has always said that going through that crap has shown her who her friends are/who she can count on. She is the sister who sent me my full-length mirror for “seeing her” because I always listened to her when she needed someone to listen. She is much happier now and I am so glad!
I understand – believe me, I do – that losing a dog is not the same as losing a human. I posted this on Facebook:

Is a comment enough for you from a really close friend or family member? Would you expect someone who has your cell phone number to also text you? My policy is that if I know you well enough to have your number in my contacts, you also get a text or call from me.
I wasn’t commented on my college bestie Heather’s post but only putting a heart and then calling or texting her. I found out she wants everyone to comment on her Facebook posts, too. I told her I hadn’t been commenting because of my call or text and didn’t think I would need to publicly put what I would say to her in private on her post. See? We are all different in this regard. So, now because Heather said that I have been doing both – leaving a Facebook comment and sending a quick text or making a phone call depending on the situation. When I told Heather about this post she said, “Social media is absolutely not enough for a close friend”. She didn’t hesitate. She is also one of the most thoughtful people I know.
For birthdays, I always text because sometimes there are so many social media comments to wade through and I know that a text or call is what I personally prefer. It’s especially nice when it’s from a friend I don’t hear from often. It really means a lot to me.
But, is a social media comment enough if that person is part of your family or close circle of friends? Has social media made it too easy for us to take the lazy way out?
Social media has been a great thing for me to connect with former students or to get a glimpse into the lives of people who live far away from me. When I see them, I feel that I am still “in the know” with their lives. So, I am not saying social media is all bad. I don’t feel that way at all.
I hope that I am not guilty of forgetting to reach out to people, because that would make me a big hypocrite! We can always do better, though, and all of us are still growing and evolving.
I also am not saying that I would cut someone off for not reaching out, but I would take pause. I have one friend that literally was never texting me back. So, I stopped initiating texts to them. Now, my friend Elizabeth is the most frustrating person to text with, but we joke about it. When I text her I can expect a 48-72 hour wait time on a response!
So, back to does a social media comment count…
How long does a text take? I will tell you that it takes a matter of seconds. I can’t buy the excuse that anyone is too busy because that is just not valid.
No, this post is not meant to be directed at anyone because most of my real-life people don’t read my blog, to be honest. It’s just been on my mind lately and I wanted to see what you all think!
Not Bitter – Seriously,
Amy










































































































































