Thursday, September 27, 2018
How busy are you? How often do you tell people how busy you are? Do you thrive off of being busy? I don’t like to be too busy. I like to leave room in my schedule for spontaneity.
I am a big believer in having downtime for both me and my kids. I was really excited to get them started in every activity under the sun when they became old enough. I quickly learned that I had to pace myself and create a comfortable schedule that would work for my family. I also realized that we didn’t have to join everything. We could dabble in things with a one day workshop. We could go to open gym at the gymnastics place and just try it out. This is better for your kids and your budget sometimes. Many families have a one activity per kid per season rule.
My twin boys have done soccer, archery, kindermusic, church choir, piano lessons, the viola with the elementary orchestra, t-ball, coach pitch baseball, swim lessons, quick recall academic team, debate, theater, computer classes, just to name a few.
When my boys were 8, we joined a baseball team that ran from February to July. The coach wanted two extra practices in addition to the two weekly prescribed by the league. He asked for extra money for the field rental and told us these would be on Friday night and Sunday night. So, I was at baseball for 8 year olds 5 nights a week at dinner time. I still don’t know why I didn’t stand up for what was best for my kids and the other kids. Guess what? That was the last time my boys played baseball because they were burnt out.
I have friends that are so busy that we can’t even talk on the phone. They have their kids in so many activities that I honestly don’t know how they can manage the schedule.
What are your thoughts? I know it’s hard to say “no” but it’s so important to prioritize. I’m worried about kids today that are over scheduled. Heck, I’m worried about adults that are over scheduled!
Thanks for reading!