Thursday, December 20, 2018

I think my boys were 4 in this photo. I bought them bomber jackets and they wore camo pants for my Dad. After having 3 girls, my Dad’s first grandchildren were my twin boys.

My Dad passed away in the early morning hours Tuesday.  Feel free to click away today – I will understand.  But, I want to honor him in this space. This afternoon from 4-8 we will hold visitation and tomorrow we will have his service at 11 at my childhood church and the church where I was married.  Afterwards, he will have a full military honors service at his burial plot in the veterans cemetary because he was a career military man.  He was a fighter pilot in The Vietnam War and then continued on with the US Air Force until age 50 when he started a second career as a corporate pilot.  

How old do you have to be to feel ready to live life without a Dad?  Don’t get me wrong, I’m so grateful to have enjoyed him for 47 years and I know that some of us don’t get so lucky.  But, I’m greedy and I wanted more.  He has been such a powerful constant in my life.  He was a great sounding board for problems and we often would just chat about recipes, bourbon, current events, and many other things.  He loved running and getting up early.  He loved coffee and tea.  He loved doing his own house projects and doing yard work.  He appreciated almost all food and always was the first to compliment you on your meals. He loved every gift we gave him for his birthdays, Christmas, or Father’s Day.

My Dad was the oldest of three boys and as the story goes, kind of unprepared to be a father to a baby girl.  The joke was on him because he went on to have two more girls and no boys!  He had to play with dolls and learn to fix our hair.  My Dad loved to talk about how I mispronounced words and continued to imitate my words for 47 years.  He loved to talk about how I loved his bean soup as a baby.  I get my good memory from him and in his words we both have “a mind like a steel trap.”

When all the stuff about Title Nine came out I honestly didn’t get the fuss.  My Dad was the reason for this.  He always made me feel that I could do and be anything I wanted in life – gender not being a deterrent.  He told me I was smart and funny and talented and I believed him.  This never changed throughout my life.  Some powerful statements he make have always stuck with me.  When I was feeling that I was spread thin and not able to be the best teacher I could be, he told me that my average day was someone else’s best day.  When I announced I was pregnant with twins he told me he didn’t know anyone else better equipped to handle twins.  

My Dad led a good life and it was a long life of 76 years.  I want him to feel peace that he leaves behind a legacy of his three daughters, three sons-in-law, and nine grandchildren.  He had a marriage of 53 years.  His career was his passion and he got to do things that others only dream about.  But, he loved his family most of all and truly was a “family man”.  

We love you Dad and we will do our best to let you live on through us.  Until we meet again.  



23 thoughts on “Thursday Thoughts

  1. I’m not the best at commenting, but I have really been employing your blog.
    I’m so sorry to hear of your loss Amy!
    Will keep you & your family in my prayers…


    1. Thank you Crystal and autocorrect gets me every time! I hope to bring some better content very soon. Thanks for sticking with me.


  2. Amy, what a beautiful post. He sounds like he was a great dad, friend, role model- all the things you would want in a dad! I am thinking of you all as you navigate through this new normal.
    Love, Victoria


    1. Thank you Vic and thank you for your presence and your plant until I can do a proper thank you. I’m blessed by your friendship.


  3. Beautiful post! Your dad sounds like a wonderful man. I know you will hold all those things that you loved about him forever. You asked how old we have to be, to be ready to live without a dad…I truly believe we could be 70 years old and still crave that unconditional love that we were blessed to be born into. There are very few people on this earth that love us unconditionally, but our parents are usually a part of those few and we are never ready to lose that. Your family will continue to be in my prayers as they have been the last few weeks. I pray your dad is honored over the next few days and that you soak it all in. One of the blessings that I have noticed through all this, is the love and support that I hope you feel from all your readers. It has been wonderful reading the words of encouragement from your internet friends. I pray you feel that love and encouragement deep in your soul.


    1. Thank you Kelly and you are so right. The messages I have gotten here and through various other avenues has been truly touching.


  4. Amy, I am praying for you and your family. Thank you so much for sharing about your dad. He sounds like a great man. I don’t think we are ever ready to live without our loved ones, especially our parents. Your dad sounds amazing and I am so sorry for your loss. My prayer for you and your family is for Jesus to be near and felt, as well as you all feeling love and peace. I am so sorry for your loss.


  5. Amy, this is so beautifully written and I am in awe of that fact that you could do this so soon; gosh girl, you are strong! Your dad, what a guy and what a life! My dad was one of three brothers too but he was the middle brother. He didn’t know much about raising girls but had 2 daughters so he caught on quickly. Your dad had an amazing military career, a fighter pilot is so impressive and the wisdom he passed down to you will live on forever. I am thinking of you and your family and praying for comfort and peace. I’m like you. Greedy. I am not ready to say goodbye nor will I ever be. Hugs sweet friend!


    1. Thank you. The three boys had so much fun together and we loved watching them crack each other up. My sisters and I have laughed through the tears and my boys have been a huge comfort.


  6. I am so sorry to hear about your dad. You wrote a great tribute to your dad today. I understand how your feel. I lost my dad suddenly three years ago. I don’t think you are ever ready to lose a parent. I will be praying for you and your family.


  7. I’m so sorry Amy. I can’t imagine how incredibly hard this is on you, your boys, your whole family..especially so suddenly and close to Christmas. Praying for you, friend.


  8. Amy, I am so sorry for your loss! So all the way from Santa-land in northern Scandinavia: take care of yourself, eat well, try to get some rest and enjoy your sweet family. Lot’s of love from your Swedish friend!


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