Saturday, September 27, 2025

I’m coming to you on a Saturday to link up with Jenn for her Share 4 Somethings.

So many of my things relate to my new retirement life and my loss of my last remaining parent. I also had a kid move out this month. I am a half empty nester, I guess.

Loved – What I have loved this month…

We have had some gorgeous weather! I have loved learning to slow down. I do feel a bit out of sorts some days but I am also embracing not rushing and having more time at home and with my pup. I had so much fun at a music festival in my hometown with just Tom. It was nice to go there for fun instead of business.

I have also enjoyed lots of time to read and several good and memorable books. I feel that I have finally gotten my house to a good place regarding keeping it clean and organized -ish. I mean, I still have dog toys strewn about but they make my pup happy.

I think Tom has benefitted from me being home and has a more relaxed wife now. I have taken some things off of his plate.

Learned – What I have learned this month…

I think I am learning to be softer with myself and with everyone. I am learning to slow down.

I think my visit to the Salt Cave was good for me this month!

Went Well – What went well this month…

Having a kid move out for real and not just for college has gone better than expected. He doesn’t have an in unit laundry and I have offered for him to come home and do laundry on a day off from work, so I have gotten to lay eyes on my kid once a week. I try to send him back with some food and it’s been much appreciated. I think our relationship has benefitted.

Let Go – What I have let go this month…

We are still trying to sell my mom’s house. It’s been a hard time to sell a house. I think that when it does finally sell we will be ready to let go of it and will be relieved and maybe if it had sold too soon we wouldn’t have been as ready? I do know I can’t control when the right buyer comes along.

Being in my hometown twice this month and my parents’ birthdays falling this month hit me harder than I thought. I also had already started worrying about what the holidays would look like. I think I am more at peace now with whatever we decide to do.

My sisters are very appreciative that I am handling the business end of this. Since I am a words of affirmation person it is nice that they thank me regularly. They are both in the thick of the school year with very difficult students and classes this year.

When I look back over the month of September, I really did a lot!

What about you? Do you have anything you would share this Saturday?

Amy

16 thoughts on “Share 4 Somethings”

  1. I love everything about this post so much. What a change from last year! I’m sorry it’s taking so long with your parent’s house – it’s tough to have things drag on like that. Enjoy your fall season, books, new boots (I just bought some too!), bag, cardigans, leaves in your yard and food! So much to look forward to 🙂

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  2. Your month has been full and isn’t it funny how full it can be without even working? Life chores, spending time with others, tackling out of the ordinary things that crop up (such as dealing with your mom’s estate) all add up to a plenty full plate. I’m glad your son moving out has been a positive. He likely realizes now how much you did for him and is extra appreciative of it. On the other hand, he likely also enjoys having his own place. Have a great weekend!

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    1. When I went back and looked at all the photos I realized it really was full.
      So true. I really want a better routine. That is so true. The days can slip away.
      Yes, it was a good change but it does make me sad sometimes.
      You too!

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  3. It sounds like you are coming to a good phase of life with the slower, softer approach. It is definitely a hard time to sell a house, even down here in Texas. I loved this introspective post!

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  5. I love that you have been able to find a slower pace, and in turn it is making you softer. I am not retired, although most days I wish I was (mainly because I love taking care of the house, reading, quilting, etc), but I will be thankful for the parttime job I do have, as not everyone who wants to work can find a job. I hope that your mom’s house sells in the perfect timing and you have a great week!

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  6. How great that you are learning to slow down. I imagine it is taking some getting used to but you sound happy.
    I am glad your son moving out has gone well. Good idea getting him to come home and do his laundry.
    Sending love and hugs. Good luck with the sale of your mom’s house. It sounds like when the time comes you will be ready.

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  7. I’m glad you are adjusting so well to retirement. I think it’s one of those things you just have to experience especially when you’ve left a job you loved and had for so long. We were in and out empty nesters. Two of our three moved out and then back in at different times. But, it was always nice to have them. You seem to have the right mindset for selling your parents’ home…if it had sold quickly, maybe you’d be less prepared.

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    1. I wouldn’t say “so well” but I am trying. You are right. Yup – I have heard about the nest emptying and filling. My sisters and I never did that with our parents. I think we do.

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  8. Sorry it has been tough with your parents house- the market is shifting- keep the faith! Being softer is a great thing to learn- I could take a lesson from you 😉

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