Wednesday, September 20, 2023

All of a sudden we talk about mental health with our students quite a bit, but what about our mental health as moms, wives, daughters, sisters, employees, travel agents, concierges, chief entertainment officers, home decorators, and all the other hats we wear?

The sayings “If Mom ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy” and “happy wife, happy life” are usually said in jest, but I really think they are true.

I have done a lot of work on my mental health and attitude in the last few years. I am trying to find my stride this school year with many changes in my teaching schedule, my school schedule, and some changes at home. I am giving myself some time to figure out what works best for me to be my optimum self. When I was younger, I was more rigid and less flexible. I really had a strong opinion about how things should be and if they didn’t work out, I found it hard to re-group. I have improved, but I am still not what I would call a Type B personality!

Here’s what has worked for me:

Quality sleep and a good bedtime are key for me. I do a shower with lavender wash after dinner/before bed (not always washing my hair), I still take one Goli Ashwagandha gummy, I use Laneige lip mask, and I spray my pillow with “It Works Deep Sleep Pillow Spray”. I have added a new thing – I now start off in fuzzy socks. I usually take them off when I do my 3:00 a.m. bathroom visit. Come on gals, you know you have one, too!

I do some leg work over the weekend to make my week run smoother. This means a grocery trip (if I didn’t already do it at the end of the week), some meal prep, some blog prep – I try to at least start the blog posts for the week if I can, some looking at my agenda for the week to plan meals, etc. I actually enjoy all of this. It doesn’t feel like work to me. If it feels like work to you, add a favorite tv show in the background, a podcast while you work, etc.

I get outside. This year with my later start I am enjoying about an hour on my patio and it is giving me life! I light a candle, read my devotional, read my blogs, and do a little blog writing.

I stay off the work email and do not work after hours if I can help it. Since I am working until about 4:00 now, I just don’t have more time to give away. I arrive at school an hour early and I stay 30-40 minutes late, unless I have a meeting and that is an hour later. I do not get paid for that extra time so why would I give away more time? With that said, I always bring my best (or try to) to my students during the class period, and I use every spare minute to plan lessons, give good feedback, etc.

Delegate – one example at school…we have a copy center. We have lovely students who work there and make the copies for us. My time is better spent doing other things so I delegate all of my copies to them. I have to be a bit more organized and can’t have last minute copies for this to work. I try to bring the copy center cookies a couple of times a year. At home, I tell Tom if I am struggling with something and he takes it off my plate. He does a lot of the Costco runs for me, for example. He runs errands when he is out for lunch, sometimes, too. He handles most of the bill paying, phone calls that have to be made, and things like that.

I read all year round and not just in the summer. I used to only read in the summer and I realized that made me sad. Tv doesn’t make me feel like reading does so I try to read more than I watch tv.

I plan a happy hour with girlfriends every other week or so.

I walk Ernie with Tom before dinner when I can. I try to have dinner done so I can do this. I know Tom really likes it and we have some good conversation time.

I laugh – seriously! I listen to funny podcasts and watch funny shows. And, you can’t be a high school teacher without laughing – you are either laughing with the students are at them – just kidding about the last part!

Take my days off. I strategically used my days last year so that I could combine a doctor appointment with a me day or just have a me day. It took me a long time to realize that the world would not stop spinning if I took days off when needed.

Please keep in mind that there are seasons in life, and this may not be a season when you can do this much – I have been there. I do see lots of young moms struggling and I urge you to find trusted babysitters for a few hours to yourself or a night out with hub and friends. It’s good for you and for your kids! Just meeting another mom to walk kids in the stroller or play on the playground helped my mental health during certain seasons.

So, how’s your mental health?

What are your tips? How do you take care of your mental health?

Amy

Tuesday, September 19, 2023

I split my weekend post into two this week and if you missed part I, you can click here!

Sunday morning I woke up and had my coffed and then make a spinach frittata that I had been wanting to make. Actually, it was going to be broccoli, but I had already used the broccoli and had a bag of spinach on hand!

With the cool morning, I was in the mood for the pumpkin bread made with spice cake mix – I added in some chocolate chips.

I couldn’t quite fit all the fritatta egg mixture in my pie plate, so I used the rest to make myself a breakfast scramble and I threw in tomatoes and some zucchini that I had. It turned out great!

Mason woke up and picked chocolate chip panckaes because he knew that would also make Jack happy – he is always thinking of Jack and it’s so sweet.

They hung out playing some games and then Mason wanted the ham and swiss sliders before leaving for the airport.

I guess you could say I was doing a lot of stress cooking and cleaning all morning.

Mason saying bye to Ernie had me in my feelings…

The four of us headed to the airport.

We had to say bye pretty quickly for him to get through TSA…

We hung around the airport until we got the text “butt in seat” from Mason…

Tom and Colonel Sanders…

Yes, our airport has a KFC!

We headed home and then I started tracking on FlightAware.com…

He quickly arrived in Atlanta and had a very short layover and almost missed the flight to England because he mistakenly headed to baggage claim even though we told him, the airline told him, and the tag said it was going all the way to England. Yup, it happens. Also, we had to pay $100 extra for 7 pounds over the weight. We just couldn’t figure out what to leave out of a suitcase for 3 months so we had to bite the bullet. We used space bags and they are amazing. We still have the ones we bought 7 years ago.

I finished this – really good!

You know I don’t buy books – I use my library exclusively, but I love Sarah Adams so much that this was my splurge from Amazon:

Her books are set in Nashville, normally, but these two are from her “It Happened in Charleston” series which will go nicely with me watching the new season of Southern Charm!

I had the French meal leftovers, Tom had the slider leftovers. It was so nice out I ate outside while reading.

I actually slept pretty well. I slept from 9-11, checked Flight Aware that I had left open, slept again from 11-1 and saw he was 30 minutes away! He texted me at 1:30 saying he landed:

He told me to go to bed, but you know how that is! I did go back to sleep from 2-5 after texting with him, and I felt ok yesterday morning. He was being picked up at the airport by two university students, so that made us feel better that he didn’t have to figure out transportation.

And, now we wait for photos and details! And, I try not to text him too much!

Amy

Monday, September 18, 2023

I am linking up today with Sarah and Holly for a bit of weekend talk!

Let’s go back to Thursday…

I had an appointment in the morning so I could spend the day with Mason! We went to the bank to get some pounds:

We ate at a French restaurant for lunch – ooh la la! We split a croque monsieur and it was a great idea! We also got some mushrooms and they were heavenly.

We had such a nice day that also included a couple more stores for a couple more necessities. We did all the laundry and made piles of all the clothes and things he was taking.

That night, we made the French meal again – bacon wrapped chicken spread with Boursin cheese, broccoli this time, and au gratin potatoes.

Friday I worked and it was a good day and after I met my friend at Mojito for a pitcher of mojitos and some guac with plantain chips!

I got favorite Mexican take out for Jack and Mason and then I spent some time on the patio…

Mason had told me all the meals he wanted me to make or food he wanted us to get before he left and it was quite daunting! So cute!

Saturday morning was so cold so I broke out an Aldi pumpkin k cup and I approve! Really good!

I was outside to see the beautiful sunrise!

Proof of the cool weather!

I made 8 breakfast burritos using Aldi low card wraps:

Saturday Mason and I had a few more toiletries to get and we also stopped in the Kroger wine shop.

Two thumbs up for this that I tried with dinner:

Jack and Mason spent the afternoon and evening together and Tom had some much needed sports in the big chair time. His weekends have been so busy lately so I knew he needed that. I spent time here reading…

the rest of this:

So cute! Then, I started this…

A student loaned it to me so I didn’t want to keep it too long.

Tom’s friend from the gym brought up some Vermont white cheddar and it made a great little snack…

And, per Mason’s request we had our favorite Mediterranean for dinner. We watched a show as a family, too. Last dinner as a family of four together for awhile…

And, that is it for Part I!

What was the highlight of your weekend?

Amy

Friday, September 15, 2023

Oh my gosh – this week was so much better than last week! I am happy to link up with Andrea and Erika for Friday Faves!

First of all, let’s talk about the weather – even though I am trapped inside from 7 something until about 4, I have been getting outside in the morning with my coffee and a candle. This is where I do my morning devotional, blog reading, and blog writing.

For some reason, this really sets a positive tone for my day!

Also, let’s talk about what else I have finally managed to do – I made it to the gym twice this week at 5:30 a.m. I was so sore from my fall 3 weeks ago (slipped on water in the kitchen), that this is the first week I have felt ok to start back at the gym. I pulled my hamstring, hurt both knees, and hurt one arm and shoulder. I can still feel that one arm is weaker, and my hamstring still hurts a little.

I found my favorite handsoap at Target last weekend!

Then, I found the matching candle at my Kroger:

My Kroger now has this display up – it was in a kind of odd place, so you might have to hunt for it if you are interested.

I finished this and loved it. I did like Nora Goes Off Script better, but still really loved this story. I am in a good reading stride right now!

I started this – I just really love this author for a fun rom com type book!

Mason has been asking to watch Gilmore Girls with me and I love that someone listed the best fall vibe episodes!

My favorite dinner this week was this:

I just used the Amylu Chicken Gouda Apple sausages I had from Costco and I added red potatoes. It had a very German/Oktoberfest/Fall vibe!

I made a mid-week secondhand shopping trip with Mason and found this H & M crinkly skirt new with tags:

I know it’s not the most flattering, but I was super comfy and I think it will work with some other things in my closet, too, when I have time to experiment!

Also, I am waiting on these to arrive:

I will let you know if they become a favorite or not!

And, finally, my Dad’s birthday was Monday (he passed away in 2018) and my Mom’s birthday was Wednesday. They were the same age with birthdays that close together! I love this photo of them. Do you think I look like either of them?

What were your favorites this week? I hope you had many! Can you believe it is already mid-September? I like to dedicate September to all things apple! I need to get on that. My weekend is all about Mason – we will be washing clothes, packing as efficiently as possible, and taking him to the airport. I am so excited for his adventure, but as expected I am nervous, too. I think I am just ready for him to get there and get settled!

Amy

Thursday, September 14, 2023

How are we halfway through September already? Is anyone else stunned by this knowledge? I am linking up with Kellyann and Jill for their Fashion Files!

I am into pants lately! I think since wearing so many dresses this spring and summer I am ready for some pants. Anyone else?

Also, I continue to wash my hair every other night so if you see my hair down, that means it was a clean hair day. If you see a headband, that means we are working with second day hair. I continue to love my headband collection.

This was last Thursday and even though I had worn my new Umgee pants Tuesday after Labor Day, I wore them again. They are that good. They are light and gauzy and I paired them with this J.Crew white gauzy blouse. Seriously, if you are in the market for a black pant, I cannot recommend them more. I washed them this weekend and hung them to dry. You can’t see the detail in my photo, so click on the Amazon link to see them.

When you don’t feel inspired, wear black and white. My headband is a multicolored scarf print with pink, green and black.

Friday I wore my new Dillard’s Westbound jeans with a white tank and my scarf kimono from a consignment store. It would have looked better with a higher heel, but school, you know. I want to try these jeans with clogs and other footwear. I absolutely love these jeans – they are supposed to be more cropped, but this is the length I am happy with. Jennifer told me about these jeans that don’t have any hardware. Click on my link and you will see that you can’t really tell. I want to order another pair for fall. My pair below were on sale for $28 and I think they are no longer available because they were considered summer jeans.

Saturday for shopping, I wore my Target Universal Thread straight leg from last year. I have these in black (no stretch at all and they are currently too tight!), light that you see below that I cut and frayed myself, and a medium wash that I left alone. These were my jeans of last fall and winter because they weren’t skinny but they also weren’t too voluminous. I am 5’4, by the way, but I feel like I have short legs.

Later that day, I put on this top and sneakers with the same jeans.

Monday for work I am a hot mess with all this stuff under my arm. I wore my new J.Crew Factory pants ($13!) with an old black blouse that I need to donate – it has some little pinholes I didn’t realize, and a consignment J.Crew pink cardigan. What is up with me and J.Crew? It’s either Factory or consignment, because I don’t pay those prices!

What have you been wearing lately? I really shouldn’t wish away the nice weather and opportunities to wear skirts and dresses comfortably, but my legs want pants right now.

Do you have a favorite? This helps me to hear what you think looks best! Thank you!

Amy

Wednesday, September 13, 2023

Today is my mom’s birthday and she has been hosting her college friends at her house, ironically enough. She hosts quite a bit! Happy birthday, mom! This post came about, though, because I just finished hosting and the topic has been on my mind! I thought with holidays coming up that others might be hosting guests, as well.

Also, check out my friend’s new blog for great and easy ideas for hosting people!

Discuss the hosting situation and make sure you know your limits. Had it been more than a week for me, I would have had to make arrangements for our guests after week one.

Discuss with your family the arrangements and delegate prep work.

Provide a guest room (if you can) with a night table, lamp, and available plugs for chargers. Remove some of the decor if it is cluttered because they need space to put their things.

Buy new pillows if your pillows have seen better days.

Provide space in the closet for their things.

Lay out their towels and show which bathroom will be theirs. Make sure you have shower products they can use in case they don’t have their own.

Provide the WIFI password – extra points if you put it on a cute dry erase board or chalkboard.

Ask ahead of time what they would like you to plan (if anything).

Keep the plans fairly loose and flexible and share the plans with the guests.

Do not plan to cook every night –

Our guests were arriving on a Monday afternoon so I made a pasta bake on Sunday and then on Monday when I got home I only had to assemble a salad and bread and this worked out well.

Plan for breakfast food – I did sliced cucumber, tomatoes, good bread, and cheese, and had butter, jam, and honey laid out on the first morning they woke up in our home. I also had a few other breakfast items they could choose like English muffins.

Since I had a nicer meal Monday night, Tuesday night was gourmet grilled cheese, green beans, and potatoes. Food does not have to be fancy. They seemed to really like this meal.

We ate out Wednesday night and Thursday we had a late lunch so no dinner was needed.

Show the guests how to use the coffee maker and show where all food is kept so you don’t feel that you are waiting on them and they don’t feel they are being waited on. One of our guests always made an afternoon coffee, too, and sometimes I had one with her.

Since I had to work most days, I made Trader Joe’s frozen croissants two days before I left for work and an egg casserole a couple of days. One day I also did a coffee cake and one day I did cinnamon rolls. They also enjoyed these sweet things in the afternoon with a coffee. I was happy to get up a bit earlier so they would have something to wake up to.

What I have learned about Germans is that they eat a very big breakfast and then one more meal each day is enough for them, so my breakfast plan worked out well.

Let the guests help you – I know that I always want to help when I go to someone’s home.

One night we ordered pizza, and I asked a guest to make the salad and she was happy to do so. Pizza makes everyone happy!

Know yourself – I need some alone time each day. I got up early to do my quiet time and this worked out one day, but our guests were early birds, and I missed my alone time some of the days – ha! I don’t talk until I have had my coffee.

When we were at home, our guests seemed to enjoy both of our patios and each of us would read our own books. Don’t feel like you have to fill the silence because everyone needs down time.

Let your guests go to their room to rest or just to be alone. Do not hover!

I know I have forgotten a ton of stuff! What else do you recommend when hosting?

This visit went really well, and I think we had a good mix of activity and down time. I think I handled having houseguests better than I have ever handled it in the past. August is the worst time for a teacher to have guests, so I think the prep I did ahead of time – thinking it out, shopping for supplies, communicating with Tom, etc. really helped me to work and host and be able to enjoy myself. I took off one day so that I had a Wednesday night with no worries, a Thursday free, and then just had to go back to work on Friday while Tom was traveling out of town with the guests.

Amy

Tuesday, September 12, 2023

August was a weird month! I started work on August 7th and kids came on August 9th, then I had a couple of bonus days off with the bus fiasco and I had some extra days to prepare for coming back to school with kids on August 21st. I decided to embrace that extra time at home with a mix of fun and productivity. I also spent some time sprucing up the house for our German houseguests who came from August 28-September 5. I decluttered and took things to Goodwill, too.

Let’s see how I did…

August 1 – $57 Trader Joe’s – stocking up on some easy things to help as I start work, $0 Martini’s happy hour with Beth to talk blogging and Beth treated even though I tried to pay!

August 2 – $50 birthday gift, $12 Paul’s breakfast sandwiches – Mason helped me set up my room and this was our treat

August 3 – $20 Francesca’s. $137 DSW shoes for school, $20 Tzatziki’s, $17 cookies from bakery – more time with Mason at lunch and he wanted to give some cookies to friends

August 4 – $16 Bath and Body – new signature scent – Into the Night

August 5 – $8 coffee shop with Mason (soaking up all the time with Mason)

August 6 – $80 dinner out after Jack’s opera

August 7 – $50 dinner out at Mason’s work – we finally made it there to see him and did the meal deal

August 8 – $12 Lunch out on teacher work day – Mexican with Erica

August 9 – $0 Spend Day! – First day of school and no time/energy to spend

August 10 – $20 Erica’s pool – admission and a drink – we found out school was cancelled due to bus fiasco

August 11 – $44 dinner in Columbus, OH with bestie Heather and my sister

August 12 – $20 Starbuck’s for my sister and I, $120 Eddie B Comedy parking, dinner, one drink (Erica bought my ticket so I paid for everything else)

August 13 – $50 birthday gift, $116 Kroger pick up

August 14 – $64 Trader Joe’s, $44 Walgreen’s

August 15 – $0 Spend day

August 16 – $31 Pretty Decent Bar

August 17 – $0 Spend Day

August 18 – +44 Walmart Return, $10 Walmart, $131 Aldi

August 19 – $36 Big Lots (new doormats), $25 Waldo’s for dinner, $12 Commonwealth Tap, $12 ice cream truck at outdoor concert

August 20 – $10 Mcdonalds for the boat – bacon, egg, and cheese biscuits for a 10:30 boat ride!

August 21 – $0 Spend day

August 22 – $0 Spend day

August 23 – $0 Spend day – woohoo! See what happens when I am busy working?

August 24 – $0 Spend day – I just can’t go anywhere after school because of getting out so late and because of the traffic at that time! I also haven’t been shopping online.

August 25 -$44 Dominos – Friday night and worked a 5 day week so pizza it was!

August 26- $55 Kroger, $95 TJ maxx (house stuff for German houseguests – new pillows, etc.), $44chick Fila for dinner

August 27- $225 Kroger – German supplies! Ha!

August 28 – $0 Spend day

August 29- $0 Spend day

August 30- $260 Captain’s Quarters dinner out with our German visitors – We aren’t sure how we spent that much. It must have been the bottle of wine a German ordered – lol

August 31 – $140 Angels Envy

Totals:

Zero Spend Days: 10! This means nothing ordered, either!

Groceries: $998 – I think this is correct? I am kind of surprised I did so well with so much going on.

ClothingAccessories: $157 unless I missed something

Meals Out: $772 – This includes a very expensive dinner out while the Germans were here – Maybe this is why the groceries were less this month? Ha!

I have not started September’s Spending Diary so I think I might take a break, but I might try to figure out what we’ve spent so far. I’m not sure.

The summer months tend to be pricey with more time on my hands and less routine.

How did you do in August?

Amy

Monday, September 11, 2023

Today is my Dad’s birthday (He would have been 81!) and of course, it’s the anniversary of 9/11. I’m linking up with Holly and Sarah and honestly, I took mostly food photos this weekend, so you will see a lot of food. Guess what, I have a lot of food boxes in my fridge right now, too.

Friday was a good day at school and after, I had plans to go to Carraba’s with Erica and Elizabeth. We had not seen Elizabeth since June!

I was so tired after happy hour and went home and whipped up a really quick dinner for everyone else but me. I was too full from happy hour.

I finished this:

I really liked it! It is one of my favorite books of the year, I think.

After I finished the above book, I started this:

Saturday was just what I needed. Tom went to spend one last day with the Germans who are staying with his parents, and I stayed home and did my breakfast prep for the week, 5 loads of laundry (we still had sheets and towels from the houseguests), dishes, fridge organization, and mopping.

In between tasks, I read on the patio and it was so nice. I seriously needed it!

Mason and I had some tea because the weather was pretty cool. I had Cinnamon Sunset and he had English Breakfast and he loved it!

Around 2:00, we went out to shop for a few clothing items and toiletries for England. We went to Drake’s for lunch and had BLT tots and sushi.

We went home and rested and then went out again to the mall – ugh – the mall!

We didn’t buy anything else and by that time Tom was back in town so he met us for dinner at Tatziki’s. I wasn’t very hungry and just had a bowl of lemon orzo soup:

We got some whipped feta, too:

It was a nice day and then we watched some Gilmore Girls together.

Sunday morning was another cool morning:

I read outside and enjoyed the weather, then we had early boat plans with our friends and went out at 10:00. We cruised around and ate lunch.

I stopped at Kroger for a few things (I had done my big grocery shop Thursday after school at Aldi) and then I showered and rested.

We were finally celebrating the 21st birthday the right way!

We chose Varanese, which I think is probably the best restaurant in Louisville if you want a variety – burger, pasta, salmon, etc. It is in a building that used to be a gas station and it is half open air.

I had a glass of prosecco, and they give you complimentary bruschetta:

Mason ordered pinot grigio but Jack stuck to water. That is kind of what I thought would happen!

Tom and I both had the salmon over cream cheese grits:

Mason had beef tip tortellini:

Jack had the roasted chicken:

They had music playing, too!

It was a lovely meal and a really nice weekend.

What was the highlight of yours?

Amy

Friday, September 8, 2023

Today’s edition of Friday Favorites with Andrea and Erika is going to be short and sweet. Why are short weeks so long? I was in the hole all week sleep-wise. I didn’t sleep great Monday night or Wednesday night and it really affected everything. Ugh!

But, here are some favorites from the week…

Beth and Bob came over for pizza on Saturday night and Beth brought some flowers from her yard. I have been enjoying them all week:

Tuesday, on Jack and Mason’s birthday, I found a penny at school in a very odd place. I believe that all the pennies I have found since my Dad passed in 2018 are from him. It’s comforting to me and I save them all! He was so excited about their birth and they made him a Grandpa which he treasured.

Tom got donuts in the morning for their birthday and then got the Chinese in the evening for them. I was busy working a double with our open house, but I came home at 8:00 and joined in.

I grabbed this at Kroger the day before and they each had a bit and Jack hated it! Mason said it could be an acquired taste.

And, we had a cookie cake:

I am hoping to finish this book this weekend as I have had zero reading time:

I am excited to start this after:

I plan to listen to some Jimmy this weekend…

I did my nails in this color again:

Tom’s friend went to Vermont and brought him back some amazing Vermont white cheddar that we enjoyed before dinner one night this week…

Cheese is always a favorite!

These pant made me happy this week. They are gauzy and so comfy, but I also like the look of them. See more details from Fashion Files yesterday!

I like to start my day outside during the week, too, when the weather cooperates. It just puts me in a different mindset before I feel trapped inside a building for 8 hours!

Ok, look at this forecast and I apologize in advance to all the Texans…

Now if only the mosquitoes would go away…

What were your favorites this week?

Amy

Thursday, September 7, 2023

Even though I was really busy last week with our houseguests, I still managed to get several outfit photos. I am linking up with Kellyann and Jill for Fashion Files.

Wednesday I wore my J.Crew Factory green linen skirt with a Target blouse from last spring. I also wore my new Crocs Brooklyn sandals.

Wednesday night I changed into this dress to go to the sailboat race and to dinner. The dress is old Target Knox Rose with my Target sandals from this season.

Thursday, I wore my Target black gauzy dress and Birkenstocks to go to the distillery tour and shopping.

Friday, I wore this to school because the football game theme was Barbie pink. These are my Target Universal Thread straight leg jeans, a consignment blouse, a consignment light sweater, and my Crocs Brooklyn sandals.

Saturday night we had our friends over to meet the Germans and have pizza on the patio. I wore a TJ Maxx Cynthia Rowley skirt, an Old Navy top, and my Target sandals.

Sunday I decided to wear my very old Old Navy white linen pants that I had not worn in ages. I Paired them with my J.Crew Factory blouse.

Tuesday for back to school I wore my Old Navy black and white blouse (I have it in orange and pink and blue and white, too!) with my new pants. I found these pants for $40 at a little boutique on Sunday while we were shopping for souvenirs for our Germans to take back home. They are Umgee and they are divine. I also found them on Amazon here. They are gauzy and lightweight and they hit more like a full length pant than a cropped pant on me. I am tempted to get another color, but the boutique only had black, so I would have to pay a little more on Amazon.

For open house later that night, I wore them again, but paired them with a Loft animal print blouse with gold threads and my new pair of $5 shoes from Vintage 7 Eight from Shoe Carnival.

The photos are not great, but you get the idea of what I’ve been wearing!

I think I am getting tired of dresses and skirts for school and I’m ready for pants.

I am really trying to shop my closet and wear what I have.

Do you have a favorite?

What have you been wearing?

Amy