Thursday, November 29, 2018
I’m going to get pretty personal here today. Usually I keep this blog to fashion, recipes, and fun. But, I’m struggling right now and I know there are many of you out there who are, too. These are things I’m trying to do right now as I am juggling visiting my dad in the hospital and having my mom live with me. She is reliant upon us for transportation to and from the hospital and my husband and I work full time jobs and have two kids and a dog. I know there are people dealing with much more than this on their plates, too.
-Try to continue your normal routine as best as you can. I thought about not writing on the blog right now, but it is something that brings me joy so maybe I need this now more than before?
-Do not feel guilty about doing some “normal things” or things that bring you joy. Look for opportunities to get a coffee, polish your nails, read a book. It’s the old adage that “you can’t pour from an empty cup”.
-Let people help. If people ask, they want to help. It makes people happy to help you.
-Outsource what you can. We have hired a driver to help with transportation for my mom a few times a week. It’s important to me to take my sons to activities myself but I can’t be in two places at once.
-Don’t neglect your spouse and kids and say thank you a lot. My husband has been amazing and I’ve tried to thank him more than usual and bring him Blizzards from DQ and other things he likes. My boys have really matured and stepped up to the plate. We’ve had some deep conversations and that have brought us closer.
-Look for the blessings. I have had such wonderful family, friends, co-workers, bosses, students, blog readers throughout this difficult season. People are good and they will help you if you let them.
I have also conquered some fears. I don’t like driving at night. It gets dark before 6 now and I’ve done great. I had a deep rooted fear of parking garages – this hospital has the scariest, curviest garage entrance and I’ve conquered it. I hate driving downtown – I’ve managed just fine.
-Be very organized. This week I had a transportation schedule and a meal schedule on the memo board and it has really helped.
-It’s o.k. to do take out or make meals easier during this time.
-Use online grocery shopping or delivery. That’s what it’s there for.
-Still decorate and participate in holidays as much as you are able. One of my blog readers said that one year she regretted not putting up a tree because it made her sadder not to have it and it would’ve brought her comfort.
-Take it one day at a time. If you think too far ahead, you may get more overwhelmed. I had a really bad day Monday and thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown. I was thinking too far ahead and not focusing on just getting through that day.
What things have helped you through a difficult season in life? If you are currently in one, my thoughts go out to you.
Thanks for reading,